I’ve been separated from the man I married for a little over a year now. I still see him regularly. Sometimes just briefly to hand off the kids or discuss some logistics. Other times it’s longer - a school event or birthday party. Every time I see him, it’s like ripping a band-aid off my … Continue reading Band-Aid on My Heart: Why It’s so Hard to See My Ex, Even Though We Don’t Fight.
“You know, everyone carries around secrets like this,” the Christian Counselor enlightened me … “And, you know, pretty much all men do this.” “Jesus didn’t.” She actually brightened, “Oh, but Paul [The Apostle] did!” “What??!!” “Yes, don’t you know, Paul was probably a sex addict.” “What??!!” “Yes, he said he had a thorn in his … Continue reading Counseling Lie Exposed: Paul was NOT a Sex Addict.
“I’m feeling a lot of shame.” I was sitting in the office of a Christian counselor, in the aftermath of discovering my husband’s adultery. She had asked me to describe my feelings. “You mean humiliation?” “No, I mean shame.” I wondered if the counselor knew the meaning of shame, but I didn’t want to offend … Continue reading Shame: Breaking the Silence
In this series, I want to share some truths I’ve learned from scripture about how to make decisions as a follower of Christ. God showed me most of these truths a couple years before I moved to India when I was going through a difficult time. At the time, I was struggling with indecision and uncertainty … Continue reading God, What Should I Do?: A Christian Approach to Decision Making (Part 1 of series)
I’ve been putting off writing about this for awhile because it is such a vast topic and God has given me so much to say on it, that it’s overwhelming to try to find the time to get it all down - much less organize all the ideas in the most coherent way. So, I’ve … Continue reading A Time to Refrain from Embracing: When Should A Christian Separate or Divorce? (Part 1 in Series)
I received a variety of responses when I first told people about my husband’s affairs - from comforting to downright hurtful. But one of the most helpful and insightful comments came from a wise woman who, after I told her my story, immediately asked, “How’s your faith?” You see, this is war. Spiritual … Continue reading Why Didn’t God Tell Me My Husband Was Cheating on Me? (Part II)
This is the second post in a series about the “sending away of foreign wives” in the book of Ezra: a text that is very confusing for the modern reader - but is actually extremely timely for the church today. In my first post, I gave you an overview of the story from the book … Continue reading Put Away Your Foreign Wives … And Your Digital Haram!: What the Book of Ezra Has to Say About Porn Use Today (Part 2 of 4)